Hello everyone! :)
I'm new here and this is my first topic. I already posted my introduction too. So now I want to start talking with my hypersensitive fellows. How do you guys, who are in a relationship, manage it? In my case, I am a very jealous person and that caused lots of trouble in my relationship. I overthink everything a lot and I can easily find a jealousy trigger. Even though for many people it can sound irrational, well for me it's a real bother. But I'm doing my best to manage it, because I don't want to make my partner unhappy, but in the same time I have moments when I'm out of control and I need reassurance. Many times I was thinking that there might be a cause for this jealousy but now I'm more thinking that this may be me and given that I'm an hsp, it makes sense. So I would like to know if any of you guys experience something like this, or any other relationship issue and how manage it. I'm looking forward to hear your replies. :)
Hi Rena! I'm new here too, and I can relate to what you're saying. I find myself jealous from time to time and it's a terrible feeling. I have a habit of "loyalty checking" my husband- but not in an accusatory or ultimatum way, I just ask "Are we ok?" every so often. This used to upset him, until I sat him down and tried to explain that the jealousy isn't about him, it's about MY self worth. I had a tough childhood which has left me with a pretty low opinion of myself. I'm working on that through therapy. Essentially what I'm doing with my questioning is asking 'Am I still good enough for you?' Now that my husband knows I'm not accusing him of anything, he's much happier about answering my questions. I just have to keep in mind the big picture and try hard not to overthink things (I realize how hard that is though!). I hope that made sense! It reminds me of this comic...
