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Krystal
Krystal San Diego, CA, USA

Overthinking? How do you handle overthinking as an HSP?

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  • Krystal
    Krystal

    Hi all,

    I mostly love being an HSP, from empathy to the joy of being able to help others. But, ONE particularly annoying habit of mine is Overthinking.

    Questions like "Why did he/she say that?", "What happens if that doesn't happen?", or so many other similar questions take up so much of my mental space. I struggle a lot  with overthinking, and it's super tiring. How do others cope up with Overthinking? Are there any tips you have to help with overthinking? 

  • Estefani
    Estefani

    I do struggle with that as well. My mind goes into this mode of strategizing on anything, including conversations. I have my husband to help me with overthinking, usually just tells me to relax and don't worry about anything, but yourself and your loved ones. Be in the moment, don't think about the future, if it comes up then that's when you face it. Don't create scenarios in your head if it has not happened. It's tough breaking that because I have always used my "overthinking" to help me move forward in anything, but perhaps I have put myself into that mode a lot that I need to learn to be present. Hope that made sense. I hope we can find more solutions from others!

    • Krystal
      Krystal

      Estefani I know. It's so tiring. I'm happy that you have such a kind husband to help you :) I think, sometimes, I'm in a rabbit hole, that it's super hard to get out. I usually take short naps to relax my mind. Thanks again for sharing.

    • Estefani
      Estefani

      You're welcome! Yea he is the best! Have you tried meditating? I often meditate a lot if there's just too much on my mind. Observing the thoughts to see if they are helpful or not.

  • Abhinav  Bhardwaj
    Abhinav Bhardwaj

    Estefani Krystal

    Oh man, I think overthinking is a killer. It drains our energy. I've used this skill called cognitive defusion to help me get out of it.
    The crux is to not fuse with the thoughts. If we get a thought, we ask ourselves if it is helpful. Most of the time it's not, so we defuse it. We just say, ah, I've seen this before.

    I recommend reading this book "The Happiness Trap". It has some good tips with overthinking.

    • Estefani
      Estefani

      That's an interesting skill! Thanks for sharing! Will definitely check that book out.

  • Aaron T
    Aaron T

    Im by myself in this home. Being both an infj-a as well as an empath. Sometimes when i get into this torturous hell over overthinking, i have an argument with myself. 99 percent of the time i cannot justify the topic i was overthinking. So i turn on some music distracting myself. Saying if these issues arise tomorrow ill deal with it. They rarely do.

    Aaron

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